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Monday, July 23, 2018

We Are All A Little Mental

A couple of weeks ago, my sister told me I had to take her slot in a half-day workshop.  I grumbled a bit.  I mean, come on, it was a Saturday! (I had important plans, particularly to catch up on lost sleep).  But I woke up bright and early and marched into a nice little basement hall (with ZERO signal!) for the MAGIS workshop, Head On:  Let's Talk About Mental Wellness.

It was the best half day I spent without coffee in months!

There are 4 aspects that determine our overall well-being:  Biological, Psychological, Social and Spiritual.  For each of these, there is some way to measure whether a person is within normal range.  Normally (pun intended), a person can fall within normal range in one or more aspects, but rarely for all.  Thus, no one is absolutely "normal".  We are all within one type of spectrum or another.  In fact, if you aren't a little bit mental, you're probably not human.

The MAGIS group put together a comprehensive team of experts that talked richly (albeit briefly) on an array of topics, sufficient for a very good and growingly important base knowledge on mental health.  Below are some of the important points I learned that day:

  • Mental health is driven by shifts or changes -- minor or major -- in our BioPsychoSocialSpiritual aspects. It can be from just one aspect or a combination.  This means, that there are only factors associated with the development of mental illness, but no definitive cause.  
  • Many people can live with multiple factors conducive for a mental illness or even show symptoms sometimes, but are not clinically (meaning: consistently exhibiting the symptoms) diagnosed.  They are able to cope with the symptoms.  Studies show these are people who typically have a good support system.
  • There are no absolute cures for mental illnesses, only remedies.
  • Diagnosis is made using phenomenological perspective, meaning: based on observed symptoms (relying heavily on the clinician's judgement) vs. biological markers.  There are no bio markers that can conclusively indicate a mental condition.
  • There is a huge variety of mental disorders with overlapping symptoms. Thus, it can be a challenge to conclusively diagnose a person without spending sufficient time observing him/her.
  • Feelings and thoughts are uncontrollable.  We can only control our behavior or actions/reactions in relation to these.
  • 6 out of the 9 basic emotions are universally viewed as "bad".  Because of this, people maintain a negative connotation when feeling these emotions, curtailing their natural tendency to "feel" these and process completely.
  • The brain is neuroplastic.  It is highly flexible and changeable.  Synapses can be trained, exercised and strengthened.
  • We can get a visual of these strengths/weaknesses of different areas of our brain through a Brain Map!
  • Impulsiveness, Autism and ADHD are due to under-stimulated (under-aroused) brains.
  • Impulsiveness and creativity are in the same area of the brain. Notice how artists seem to be a little bit more crazier? (Hehe!)
  • Everything is dual in nature. Recognizing and accepting this helps us to deal with this duality better.
  • Everyone is continuously looking for healing.
  • Trauma is stored in the body and can manifest in different ways, including stiffness in movement.
  • Movement creates change and, thus, can initiate a change in mindset.
  • The expressive arts help access the internal.
  • All art is good art and is always a good starting point of healing.
  • As adults, the only time we allow ourselves to play is when we are around kids.  It is important to give ourselves a space to play and to be deliberate about playing for ourselves.
  • These are the 7 levels of our existence.  All of these are important and we need to be mindful and actively cultivating the health of each.
    1. Physical body
    2. Breath
    3. Mind (as in the function of the brain)
    4. Intellect (judgment)
    5. Memory
    6. Ego (how you separate yourself from others; feeling of superiority or inferiority is an expression of Ego)
    7. Spirit (that level of our existence that is most connected to all things)

Phew!  It's a laundry list, isn't it?  It's a barrage of knowledge nuggets that seem so diverse that it's easy to lose that hint of connection. I'm sitting here, wondering how I can elegantly tie it all together and close this blog.

What did I learn?  

First, when God said He created each of us uniquely, He wasn't kidding.  Therefore, there is no such thing as normal.  Each person was given a unique set of graces and abilities, designed for a very specific purpose in His overall plan.  Armed with these, He has set each of us on our very own journey.  Yes, our paths converge sometimes, but the entire journey is ours alone.  

Second, He didn't create us perfect (But what is perfect, anyway?), just perfect for our roles.  He purposely created us with some kinks and chinks, because we were meant to need each other.  We were meant to help and support each other.  We have our own struggles, most of them hidden (like icebergs) from even the closest people in our lives.  Once we are able to recognize and accept our struggles, we are able to seek, recognize and accept help from others.

Third, knowing and accepting these as universal truths should make us more compassionate and prompt us to give more allowances to each other, to #ChooseKind always. Deliberately.    

(Oh, and I think I have PMDD - Premenstrual  Dysphoric Disorder. Yes, it's an official mental disorder since 2013, apparently).


Sunday, July 22, 2018

Poetic Doses: 187 to 196

#RayaBlabbers #365daysofpoetry
(These come with some nice photos in my IG account  @lightbulbs_heartstrings)

187

How complicated life is
When dealing with people
Yet there is no bliss
Quite like dealing with people.

188

Counting my blessings
1, 2, 3
First, the mornings when the heart sings
Then come noons with joy to come soon
And there are dusks when there is nothing more to ask
Till finally the good nights come to replenish the spirit's light.

189

Despite what I say
All I really want is for you to stay.

190

Help comes when it is needed
And His guidance is easier heeded.

All we need is to flow with His sure tide
And in His strong wind, to dance and glide.

***

It is all about God's impeccable timing and grace;
When moving pieces click suddenly into place.

191

Incline my ears to the truth of who I am
Over the buzz of damaging self-doubt.

192

This --
is where I found her
Between the folds
of my dreams
and angst.

193

Monsoon rains are such a pain (in the ...)
As if having wet feet were such a treat.
Today I witnessed you drop my heart
And just idly watch it drift past and far.

194

With so many things going on,
She repeated,
"Ladies, zip up your imaginary corsets."
I wanted to scream,
"You are evul!"
But, as my body screamed in pain,
my spirit soared to a higher plane.

195

For we are all in one form of spectrum or the other --
autism, gender preference or mental state.
Normal is so overrated.
And, I dare say, mythical.

196

With a little bit of teamwork, compassion and empathy,
we might all find the all elusive unicorns of
happiness, peace and love.

Art by Mister_Sasquatch on IG



Poetic Doses: 177 to 186

#RayaBlabbers #365daysofpoetry
(These come with some nice photos in my IG account  @lightbulbs_heartstrings)


Photo by:  Shaira Luna on IG
177

Looked up at the sky
In search of a falling star
To catch its magic
Between the palm of my hands
But all I found were dead stars
Floating, alone in a sky full and vast.

178

Foolish one,
Best bite your tongue
Lest in your haste
This heart you betray.

179

And after all these years
The sighs and the tears
It remains a mystery
Or a truth I refuse to see.

180

My weary heart longs for a home to call its own.

181

A shower of beautiful stars falling all around me
As I wish for the one that will fall into me.

182 

Can't wait to be home
Been lost for too long.

***

My heart craves to be 
In the arms of one who loves me.

***

She waited
Until her spirit waned
And her heart retreated.

183

He stared out at the horizon
While I sat staring at his back.

***

And I continue to wait
For a return or a coming.

184

My heart, broken a thousand times over;
I long for that day, when it is finally (truly) sober!

185

"I love you," she said,
And then walked away;
For as her heart was tormented by the burden of her secret,
so also did her mind fear his inevitable response;
She knew his truth
As much as she knew hers.

186

Pity me, pity you
When there is no me
In the universe of you.




Poetic Doses: 167 to 176

#RayaBlabbers #365daysofpoetry
(These come with some nice photos in my IG account  @lightbulbs_heartstrings)


Photo by @inadoodles on IG


167

You are as gold to my broken pieces;
Celebrating the broken parts, while lovingly mending;
In You I am made whole again in a beautiful way.

168

For in every bad there is a good;
All it takes are a big open heart and a pinch of faith.

169

Stretching beyond my perceived limits;
Withstanding some pain and
Accepting temporary discomfort.

170

How to deal with a man of steel;
A stubborn mule who'd rather be a fool?

171

Oh, to heck with it!  I'm coming clean.
I'd rather be any place with you in it.

172

How long or how far you roam
The heart knows its way home.

173

Calling on Dreamers ...
Painfully cognizant of the failures of the past;
Naively optimistic to actually shift the future;
And perfectly poised to change the world now.

174

Mundane chores that normally bores;
They open hearts and real conversations start.

175

Perhaps I will never understand her full beauty;
But it is enough that I glimpsed it for just a moment.

176

24-hour flight, what was I thinking!
Brain is out-of-sight and it's only Day 1 of the meeting.